Every race/community, in order to survive in this weird
world, develops a piece of its culture which is unique from others. Hinduism,
oldest religion in world also developed its own unique cultural base,
traditions and a philosophy of Life. Cultural identification is needed for
recognition and survival.
In Hinduism we postulated 16 sanskars [ceremonies] from
birth to death of a man. Many of these sanskars [ceremonies] are out of vogue
now. Two prominent sanskars [ceremonies] which are in vogue are Yagnopavit
ceremony and Marriage ceremony. Even these two have gone under modifications.
Yagnopavit:-
It marked acceptance of student by teacher [Guru]. With this
child entered into formal education. This education besides imparting Vedic
knowledge extended to art and craft also. This ceremony can be compared to
Baptism in Christianity. Both boys and girls used to undergo this ceremony.
Manu smriti, Harita dharamasutra and Kurma Puran endorse girl yagnopavit. Girls
who opted for marriage instead of gurukul did symbolic yagnopavit ceremony on
their marriage day. In Kashmir this ceremony is done with some modifications
introduced by rishi Logaksha. This ceremony [sanskar] is one of the 16 sanskars
a Hindu has to undergo from birth to death in this world. Sanskars are
essential for physical, mental and spiritual development of a person. Though
ARYA SAMAJ accepts girl yagnopavit, orthodox Hindu canons do not approve of
girl yagnopavit. This ceremony is for all Brahmins, Kshatriyas and Vaishya.
Bandhayan grihyasutra even mentions this ceremony for Shudras. Age limit for
this ceremony was fixed as:- Brahmin 8 years, Kshatriya 11 years and for Vaishya
12 years. Sacred thread worn on this ceremony has three strands. These three
strands stand for three goddesses---Savitri, Saraswati and Gayatri, meaning
Goddesses of Deed, Word and Mind. Knot [Brahm gand] represents cosmic energy
holding three Goddesses. At physical plane three strands stand for our three
responsibilities towards Devtas, Pitras and Household. Wearer of this sacred
thread had to be pure in thought and in deed.
Today yagnopavit is not done for girls and out of boys
custom now mainly in Brahmin community. Ceremony has lost its vitality and is
reduced to just social display. This boy even after this all elaborate ceremony
is not introduced to Vedas. He is not told significance of holy Gayatri mantra.
After ceremony he does not know how many Vedas are there and what they stand
for. Not knowing true significance of ceremony boy hangs this sacred thread in
bath room and forgets about it. Question comes to mind if that is ultimate fate
of this sacred thread ceremony, then why do it at all? Shouldn’t we ask Gurujee
to impart us including boy undergoing this ceremony some Vedic knowledge, tell
us significance of Gayatri Mantra and its relevance. That way faith can develop
in these rituals and guarantee their future.
Marriage:-
This is another sanskar day by day losing its sanctity.
Hindus are only community in this world who believe in its sacrosanctity. For
Abrahamic religions marriage is just a contract between boy and girl which can
be easily broken. In Hinduism there are various types of marriage ceremonies,
but most common is matching of horoscopes of boy and girl. After matching of
horoscope compatibility of families was assessed .Only after horoscope matching
and family compatibility consent for marriage was given. Mahurat [auspicious date
and time] for” Lagan” was got from Guru jee . At “Lagan” boy and girl were told
significance of marriage and their duties to each other and to family.
Now this Mahurat, importance of marriage, duties and
significance of Vedic mantras has been hijacked by video filming of events, Jai
Mala [a Rajput custom] and filmy songs. From DAAR Puja to Posh Puja everything
is done mechanically. There is no attempt to know true significance of what is
being done. Even Guru jee at times is asked to finish mantras fast for some
less important social events. No one listens to mantras being chanted by Guru
jee. Net result boy and girl do not know importance of marriage and its
implications. Marriage is taken as bondage for fulfilling one’s desires. Wisdom
of all what was done in past is seriously doubted.
Marriage today is a gala function with big feast. There is
exchange of costly gifts [glumut]. No body knows importance of Glumut in past
and its irrelevance today. With love marriages on rise horoscope matching has
taken back seat. Even it is ridiculed right and left by concerned. A question
comes to mind, if we have no faith in horoscope matching, Mahurat etc. then why
run this drill before marriage?
Conclusion:--
We Hindus are only community on this planet who doubt and
ridicule customs and our cultural heritage. Vedic wisdom is being criticized
despite the fact that over 99% of us cannot read or write Sanskrit [language of
VEDAS]. When whole world has started accepting Vedic wisdom, we are leaning towards
west for patronage. Isn’t it a irony that we criticize without trying to know what
is written in holy books!
Are you aware of any Muslim/Christian who is criticizing his
cultural heritage, leave alone religion. Yet we Hindus are ready to criticize
our religious customs without trying to find their essence. Any society/nation
survives because of its cultural base. Mao se Tung of china said long back, “To
destroy a country, just destroy its culture”. Same was done by Britishers and
Moghuls who ruled us. Even after independence we are slaves to western
ideology. This is intellectual bankruptcy. We have made mess of our ceremonies
and religion on the whole, citing freedom of expression as reason. We are ever
ready to adopt others customs for petty gains. This shows we are a sick
society.
If we have to survive we need to understand Vedic wisdom and
significance of all cultural heritage including Sanskars. For this
intellectuals have to read Vedas and translate their wisdom in local/ national
language. These intellectuals should not trust western translations which
obviously are biased and prejudiced. In mother tongue this Vedic wisdom can be
easily grasped. This will help us in developing faith in these ceremonies
[sanskars]. Once there is faith we will be able to carry these sanskars forward
in better and firm way.With out faith these sanskars are going to die in future.
Need of hour is to revisit our past to secure our future.
Strong cultural base is backbone of society/community. It should be our
endeavor to rebuild our society and culture.All rituals need to be celebrated with fervour and faith ,as they give spiritual resonance to our lives.